Sara Elizabeth Eisenhauer Mathis was born on November 27, 1951 to Rosemary and the late Louis Charles Eisenhauer. Sara was the oldest of four children. Her sisters, Tara and Rachel and brother Drew followed. Sara was raised in the Baltimore Metropolitan area and attended Baltimore County public schools where she was an able and promising student. She also pursued many interests while growing up. These included the Brownie Scouts and summer sessions at Camp Shadowbrook. Sara took piano lessons in school and studied for a year under Renaldo Reyes at the Peabody Conservatory in Baltimore City.
In 1966-67 Sara attended St. Andrew’s (High) School in Surrey, England. Upon her family’s return to the US, Sara enrolled at Seton High School on North Charles Street in Baltimore City, where she completed her high school education. A year of college followed at the University of Maryland. Then Sara married to begin her own family. From her first marriage Sara had two children, Christopher and Jessica and from her second marriage to John Mathis, she had three children, Elijah, John, and Tyrone. But sadly, Sara’s diagnosed mental illness, schizophrenia, robbed her of the opportunity to enjoy a full and normal family life.
Despite her devastating illness, Sara found the strength in recent years to become a spokesperson for the Disabled in Texas which had been her home for the past 27 years. She appeared on several talk shows and testified in court cases.
On December 21, 2003, Sara died suddenly of an acute respiratory infection with complications at her home in Temple, Texas. She was 52 years old.
In Loving Memory - Tara Eisenhauer Ebersole , sister
Today, January 18, 2004, we had your memorial service in Catonsville, Maryland. You would have been pleased. Your cousin Kenny spoke of his love for you with a funny remembrance from childhood. Your cousin Jay played the piano beautifully in your honor. Your Aunt Pat and Uncle John, Aunt Carol and Uncle Jack, Cousins Michael, Bobby, Missy, Verna Joe and Kathy were also there as well as nieces and nephews that you never met. Tara and Drew were there and me too, your sister, Rachel.
We remembered the best years and the best of you but noting that mental illness robbed you of your wonderful qualities. And for too long, I was too angry and frightened by your mental illness to get past the bad to still see the good and see the human being beyond the illness. And now it's too late...forgive me...
However, my promise to you is that I'll reach out to those in my community that need help. And that process has already begun with volunteer work at the Lighthouse Homeless Shelter in Annapolis.
And we'll also try to be here for your children when they are ready. We are already getting to know Jessica. She is a lovely woman. And the boys will come around when they are ready.
And Sara, I know you are at peace now...no more pain and heartache and you are with Daddy and Nana and Grandmother Eisenhauer and others waiting for you.
Rest now in eternal peace and love, you deserve it.
Love, Rachel - Rachel Eisenhauer, sister
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I just wanted you to know, Sara, that your beautiful niece Rebecca is sharing some of your story in a paper she has been asked to write in graduate school. She has a compassionate soul and wants people to know how strong you were in the face of such terrible suffering. Remember"It was not your fault."
Tue, Dec 23, 2014
Hey mom. This year was by far one of my more stable years since you left. I was only locked up one time at the beginning of the year and for only a day thank God. I've fallen in love with someone who reminds me a lot of you in that she has endured so much at so young but you would never know unless she reveals it. I still haven't been by your gravesite but as the years progress I understand more and more how you aren't even in the ground anymore. I'm trying to grow spiritually as well and if you ever want to visit i do miss you and one more embrace is more then i ever want, to see you and know you are resting is Comfort enough. Well i know heaven is to exciting to keep you interested in weirdly issues but ILOVE you so mucho. Hey what i will be pleased to announce is is that the three Mathis boys are close than ever. Love you miss you rest in peace mom.
Tue, Dec 24, 2013
Its been a rough year. Locked up 6 times usually no more than a day but in Oct was for six weeks. I also messed up school so my be a while before I grdute. I miss you still. I also broke up w my girl of six years earlier this year and it set going to happen again so maybe next year i can introduce someone special to you. Take care
Mon, Dec 24, 2012
This is hard for me to do but I will keep my promise and give u updates. I did it though. Remember that math class that's held me BA k for so long? Well I completed my credit this semester! Mama I am gonna graduate next year! Missing you doesn't explain it You were my other half and I feel like I lost you so young and as a child I was selfish. I didn't show you enough....I talk with all my family quite often and your cousin Char is amazing ... I try to stay close to those who remind me of you..you were so precious. I had dreams we would all be backaches family one day me you john Elijah and Johnnie...God saw different ....I know I am rambling but there is just so much to tell. I am going to do updates twice a year for you Mommie maybe next time we talk you willhave heard from one of your other children ....Love you bye for now
Fri, Nov 11, 2011
To Sara, from your cousin....rest in peace.
Thu, Oct 27, 2011
My funny, strong spirited, loving cousin...Sara!! We lived so far, when we were young, Im so sorry! The picture here is my minds eye picture of you...how did we lose touch? All of us!? I read the beautiful piece Rachel wrote for and about you...I heard it all wrong. You ventured out to be the spokes person for mental illness?? Damn girl...you were always courageous. I dont know your children but from what I hear...you were blessed by them. Elijah is the only contact I made and he is articulate, handsome and funny...just like you. There is so much I dont know...I do know you wanted so badly to be well...was a tough fight Sara...yours more so than others. Your degree of illness couple with other things had to have been unbearable at times...I wish I could have comforted you. You are blood of my blood and I love you not because we are blood...but because you reached out to me when I was painfully shy and insecure and brought me out from the inside. That was a gift from you I will always hold close. I owe you. There is a terrible stygma in this country about mental illness...makes us hide for fear of being labeled "crazy, lazy & hazy in the head"...that hurts when your white knuckeling life trying to get back to whatever the hell "normal" is and makes it tough to be proud of small accomplishments. You take 2 steps forward to wind up one step back again. Hard to understand unless you have walked a mile in those shoes. To this date, I have not openly told anyone my fight back from chronic clinical depression. Been 8 yrs..knock wood...no relapse...no medication. I was lucky. Many are not. I wish I could have hugged you during your frightened times. Our illness hurts those we love and who love us. I was not there for you but I can promise you that I will continue...when I see someone (anywhere) who I know is suffering, I will, if for but a smile and kindness
not look away and run for cover acting like the crazy SOB's problem is gonna rub off on me. I know your laughing. I can feel you! Please hug my Dad for me...for a good couple minutes and tell him I love him...as well as Gpa, Gma, your Mom, your Dad and hook up with my girls Kathy B & Penny...they are amazing. Love you cuz...mean it. <3
Sun, Mar 13, 2011
Mommy I'm sorry. I held so many feelings inside towards you and my family for leaving me so alone. Ive since learned you didn't even want to give me up in the first place. Makes me so proud that even through your condition, and as damaging as it was,your heart and your love were unsurpressable. You never showed me you were sick when I came to visit only showed me how much I meant to you by getting up, and getting dressed. I remember times on the trip down to Belton, being told we probbaly wouldn't get to see you because you weren't feeling well and when we arrived, you were there. I remember the basketball you and daddy bought me when you didn't even work, mama I miss you. Luckily you had siblings who love you so, and are so much like you they are accepting me Mommy, not like the social workers said, they're actuaally accepting me. they said they wanted to know me all along Mommy how neat is that...Well anyways momma i'll write you again next year to give you another update next year, I just found you so I'm sorry it took me to long. I love you, I love you, I love you, bye for now...